Before she became the woman behind the successful man, she was the totally unsupportive wife.
Long time ago, whenever I was excited to share my ideas, she would respond with, “E di wow!” which made me feel discouraged and uninspired.
She would question why I do what I do – and that was the problem.
She didn’t know I find relief whenever I get to work on my interests – that was a problem.
The problem – I didn’t exert much effort to make her understand why I do what I do. I asked her for time, but I didn’t let her see the value I get from doing what I’m doing. She didn’t know the positive impact if I could spend time working on my dreams for myself and the family.
Fast forward, these last few years, our marriage keeps growing better every year. We’re in-love more than ever. You might say we’re lucky but we both had to learn our lessons the hard way. Mistake after mistake, we almost reached the dead end. But after a series of wise counsel, God showed a U-turn.
We intentionally learned about our roles as husband and wife. We looked within what needed to be changed. But that doesn’t mean we became perfect. Not at all. It just means, we strive to become wise in rebuking mistakes and choosing to forgive each other day in and day out. Accepting and loving our imperfections. And eventually, loving unconditionally just as how God loves us.
And of course, finally, she understood the purpose of why I do what I do. Now, whenever I share new ideas, her response is, “Wow, great idea babe! How can I help you?” (Oo, English na sya’ng sumagot)
